The Pros and Cons of Using Traditional Wedding RSVP Cards

A blue and white wedding invitation suite.

While RSVP cards have been a big part of a wedding invitation suite for years, the cultural environment surrounding this traditional stationery element is changing. Certainly for any wedding it’s important to gain insight into which guests are planning to attend and which aren’t; RSVP cards have historically facilitated that knowledge for brides and grooms. But read on to gain an understanding of whether you should stick with RSVP cards or take a more modern approach to finalizing the attendee list for your big day.

The Case for Traditional RSVP Cards

First, let’s discuss why it’s worth exploring the idea of sending RSVP cards to your guests per the usual wedding invitation protocol.

They’re Traditional

First, one of the reasons why sending an RSVP card in your wedding invitation suite is appealing is because it’s traditional. Simply put, if it’s important to you to follow historic traditions surrounding weddings, it’s probably important to you to include this card for your guests. Plus, what could be more exciting than waiting for those cards to come back in the mail as you prepare for your wedding?!

They’re Aesthetically Pleasing

A blue wedding invitation suite.

If you’re looking to perfect every last detail of your wedding, you may want to include RSVP cards to get those picture perfect stationery photographs on your big day. These cards do their part to complete your invitation suite, and if you take care to design them with the rest of your stationery pieces, they can be creative, unique, and absolutely beautiful.

They’re Easier for Some Guests to Use

For some of your guests, it will likely be easier for them to mail RSVP cards back to you rather than to reply electronically. This is specifically targeted at the older guests invited to your wedding. Consider the demographics of your guests and whether or not you think the majority of them would be willing and able to RSVP online or if they’re more likely to be comfortable sending in their RSVP the old fashioned way.

The Alternative to RSVP Cards

You may be wondering what the alternative to RSVP cards are. In the world we now live in, technology rules. For that reason, it’s becoming more and more common for brides and grooms to request that their guests RSVP on their wedding website. There are several benefits of doing things this way, as outlined below, rather than going the old fashioned route.

You Can Spend Less on Postage

One draw to allowing guests to RSVP online is that you won’t need to provide them with a stamp on the return envelope as you would with a response card. With rising stamp prices, this can be quite a savings. Plus, having less to actually mail in your invitation suite may reduce the cost to mail your invitations as a whole.

You Can Spend Less on Your Invitation Suite

It’s no secret that wedding stationery can get expensive quickly. Opting not to include response cards can cut down on costs as it’s one less piece to order with your suite. This can make a big difference for those on a budget or for anyone looking to spend the money elsewhere.

You’ll Get Quicker Responses

A young woman looking at a laptop and checking her digital RSVPs to her wedding.

This pro comes with a caveat, but streamlining replies to be online could allow you to receive responses quicker. The caveat is that, as mentioned above, the demographic of those invited has to be willing and able to use technology in order to RSVP correctly. If you’re inviting mostly tech savvy guests to the wedding, chances are that it’ll be quick and easy for them to RSVP online rather than going through all of the steps of mailing a response card.

You’ll Have More Control

As the wedding planner, online RSVP systems can give you more control. There’s nothing more awkward than receiving a reply card back with extra names on the line, stating that a guest is going rogue and bringing individuals or children that weren’t invited in the first place. Many programs that facilitate virtual RSVPs allow the bride and groom to specify guest names and RSVP limits for each invitee, cutting down on unwanted guests and confusion.

At the end of the day, either method of receiving RSVPs is appropriate. It all depends on your guest list as well as your personal preferences, so it’s your choice to make as you plan your big day.

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