By now, we all know that wedding planning can be stressful. So, it’s no surprise that counseling has become a thing for newlyweds. However, there’s a new and different therapeutic trend as well: tantric coaching. And you—yes, YOU—might find it worthy of consideration.
It might come as a surprise, but many modern-day newlyweds (or soon-to-be ones) are concerned their sex life will take a downturn once they tie the knot. You’ve probably heard of a “sex therapist” or “tantric sex” before, but you also may not have the best impression in your mind. You might be thinking of bored older couples, sex-less marriages, the Kama Sutra, or some over-hyped New Age fad. This isn’t quite the case, as there’s more to the story.
What Is Tantric Sex?
Tantric sex is based on ancient Hindu, Jain, and Buddhist practices. The point of tantric sex is less about an orgasm and more about enjoying the experience leading up to it.
A lot of the exercises focus on teaching you to use your whole body during sex. This means engaging your mind and your subconscious. It’s considered to be about spirituality as much as the sexual experience itself. However, its main focus is “being in the moment” with your partner rather than simply satisfying one another.
Why You Should Hire a Tantric Coach
A tantric coach can make a profound difference in your sex life, as well as in your relationship. Tantric sex is all about deepening the emotional connection with your partner. In doing so, it can boost your marriage and strengthen it going forward.
It can also be beneficial to anyone who has general issues with low libido or lack of pleasure during intimacy. Tantric methods can also resolve problems with communication, as it helps both partners understand each other better.
If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time prior to marriage, you might find that these issues tend to show up over time. By learning the tantric practice, you can avoid losing intimacy or strengthen what you already have.
What Can I Expect from a Tantric Coach Session?
This really depends on the practitioner. The initial stage is learning about breathing, much like yoga and meditation. Some coaches may also implement or teach you about tantric massage.
As with any other sex therapist, expect to open up about your intimate life and have “homework” assignments to complete. If you come with the intent of fixing pre-existing relationship problems, you might end up working on these as well. After all, sexual problems are often a sign of another related issue that you might not be aware of.
What if My Partner Isn’t Interested?
Encourage your fiancé or new spouse to go to a session or event with you at least once. There’s no harm in trying something new together! You can hire a tantric practitioner for private sessions, or attend workshops or retreats to get an introduction. A group workshop may be more suitable for those who are too shy for a one-on-one meeting.
It’s also possible to attend tantric coaching solo. This may be a good idea if you’re interested, but your partner isn’t too keen. Then, you can introduce them to bits and pieces of what you learn in the privacy of your own home and hopefully intrigue them to continue studying the subject further with you.