Are you and your spouse considering renewing your vows? Many married couples decide at some point to plan a vow renewal ceremony. It’s a beautiful way to re-express the love you share for one another after you’ve already said your wedding vows on the original day. While there are numerous reasons why couples choose to say “I do” a second time, the following are some of the most common.
You Haven’t Had Your Dream Wedding Yet
One of the most common reasons to consider a vow renewal is because you and your spouse didn’t have the wedding you’d always dreamed of originally. Whether you’ve been married for a year or 50 years, it’s never too early or too late to plan the ceremony and reception you wanted but, for whatever reason, didn’t get.
This reason is especially pertinent for couples who chose to get married at a courthouse or opted for a spur-of-the-moment elopement. If you never had the opportunity to share the experience with your family and friends, it can leave you wishing for the chance to. Fortunately, you can!
Another common holdback is financial difficulty. Young couples often don’t have the money to plan a big wedding because they’re just starting out in life. They may know being together is right and want to proceed hand in hand, but may not have the resources yet to celebrate in a big way.
It’s also possible for this to be reversed. Some couples have a larger wedding ceremony and reception because they know it means a lot to family. It may not, however, be the kind of event you wanted. In cases like this, renewing your vows in a more private setting, like an elopement or second honeymoon, may be exactly what you and your spouse need.
Whatever the reason, renewing your vows is a wonderful way to make your union special in a way that matters most to the two of you. There’s absolutely no reason you shouldn’t have the wedding of your dreams.
Something Wasn’t Quite Right at Your Last Wedding
Maybe you did have the opportunity to plan the wedding of your dreams…but something went wrong. No one expects disaster to strike on or around their wedding date, but it does happen. A tragedy or sad event can make truly celebrating difficult. Weather can cause travel delays that prevent important loved ones from attending. A planning error or last-minute cancellation might cause problems as well. The issue may not have been anyone’s fault, but the memory of your big day could still be a little marred.
Recreating the ceremony and reception under better circumstances can help lift your union out of whatever darker place it may have landed in. You can create new and better memories to cherish together with family and friends for years and years to come.
An Important Milestone Is Approaching in Your Marriage
The approach of an important milestone is another great reason to plan vow renewal. If, for example, you and your spouse are coming up on a special anniversary, reaffirming your love for one another on that day could be really special. This is especially true for couples who have been together for a long stretch of time. Whether it’s been 10 years or 50, it’s worth celebrating the fact that your marriage has lasted so long. After all, some couples aren’t so lucky.
A milestone doesn’t have to be an anniversary, however. You may want to renew your vows after your children move out of the house, after you both retire, or to celebrate one of you recovering from an illness. There are a wide variety of life events that warrant renewing the love you share for one another.
It’s Time to Start Your Marriage Fresh
When you get married, you vow to stay together “for better or for worse.” Sometimes, however, the “for worse” can get pretty bad. Maybe you stuck with one another, but it was a really close call. Separations don’t always end in divorce. Sometimes a little time apart from one another is all it takes for both parties to realize together is better than apart. It isn’t always easy to pick up the pieces, but it is absolutely doable. If you’ve experienced an almost-divorce, a vow renewal may be the perfect way for you and your spouse to commit to moving forward together again.
It’s also possible you and your spouse experienced hardships that put a lot of strain on your relationship. In cases such as these, a vow renewal can be a great way to move past the past. Planning a ceremony (either with family and friends or without them) can help you start fresh. Not only will this help you put less pleasant memories behind you, but it can celebrate the fact that you got through them together in the first place.