No matter how long you have been married, date night is an important part of life that many couples skip. It’s easy to go through life day-by-day with your spouse, knowing full well that you love one another and enjoy being together, but date night offers some great opportunities.
Unfortunately, the number of couples who stop dating while married is high. This shouldn’t be the case! If you can’t remember the last time you went out on a date, it’s time to make it a priority.
Reasons to Date While Married
Prioritize Each Other
Date night is about making time to enjoy the company of your loved one. It shows you’re willing to make each other a priority in your life. Although it can be hard to find the time to go out with your spouse, it’s just as important as going to the gym or taking the kids to the park. So, sometimes it will take a bit of effort and planning, but it’s effort that’s well worth it. People who set aside “couple time” at least once a week are much happier in their marriages compared to those who don’t.
Have Fun Together
Date night also allows you time to enjoy the company doing something fun! It’s not about working together to get the kids off to school or the house tidied up or even entertaining your friends. It’s about getting away from the stress of your life and having a good time, just the two of you, like you used to. Fun should never be left out of a marriage.
Date nights are also all about keeping up the romance! It shouldn’t be the same as grabbing a pint with your friends or taking the kids to a movie. These little touches can go a long way in keeping the spark alive in your marriage and showing just how much you care. Some people find it hard to get inspired for random acts of love, but dates will give you a regular stage where it’s easier to get ideas for something special.
Tips for Dating
When planning a date night, make sure that isn’t too casual all the time. Occasional casual dates can be a relaxing way to spend time together, but if they’re all that way, they begin to feel just like normal nights. Sometimes you should plan to go somewhere in advance, get dressed up, and put effort in. Think about what dating was like when your relationship was new! Dating while married should still feel this way.
Try New Things
Don’t let date night become another boring routine. If all you ever do is go to the same old restaurant and do the same activities week after week, it’s time to switch it up! Be open to try new things! Look up what’s happening in your city and see if anything grabs your attention. It could be a play that’s being put on at the theater, an art exhibit that’s passing through, or a festival that’s happening during the weekend. You can even do something as simple as just walking or driving until you find a new restaurant you want to try.
Leave the Kids Home
Never bring your children on your date. If you bring the kids, it’s not a date; it’s a family outing, and those are not the same thing. Dating should be about just the two of you. Kids offer can offer distractions and stress that make it hard to create an intimate connection.
Are you out of touch when it comes to planning a date? No worries; it’s just like riding a bicycle. Start by trying these ideas.
If either you or your spouse is creative or artistic, why not attend an art workshop? These are often held at libraries, galleries, community centers, or by local artists in a studio. They will teach anything from painting landscapes to glass blowing, crafting DIY planters and more.
Or spice things up with a wine and paint night! This new trend is everywhere, offering a fun new alternative style of class for those that want to create. A little alcohol can help stave off feelings of embarrassment for you or your spouse if you’re not very artistic, letting you both share in the moment and just enjoy the time together.
Couples who enjoy physical activity or nature might want to take to the outdoors for a fun date night. This can include ice skating, tobogganing, tubing, or skiing during the winter months, or in the summer, you can plan out a bike ride, go hiking in the woods, or even rollerblading at the park. There are less physical options too for those who would rather relax and enjoy like leaf viewing or going to the beach.
Some couples really enjoy cooking together. While it’s always fun at dinner time to whip up something good for the family, you can also attend a cooking class on date night to learn something new together. These are taught at a number of places, such as farmers markets, restaurants, community colleges, and grocery stores. Most of the time you are taught by local chefs, and they let you know what you’ll be cooking that day before signing up, and how long the duration will be. Even if you’re a comfortable cook, there might be a new skill you can take away, but the important part is simply doing it together.
Be a Tourist
No matter where you live there’s bound to be activities that tourists typically do in the area. If you’ve been living in your city for a while now, you probably haven’t done anything like it in a long time, so s really fun date might be acting like a tourist for a day in your own home! Or, if you’re bored of your city, why not explore a nearby city or town? A short road trip could make the night even more exciting!
Everyone had something they loved doing as a kid. These make great date nights. Not only do you get to enjoy a childhood favorite, but you get to share it with your loved one. For example, maybe you loved playing video games at the arcade or you spent all summer at the water park. Whatever it was, see if there’s somewhere you can enjoy a blast from your past.