Planning your wedding is such a fun and exciting process, but it can at times be all-encompassing. Once the wedding passes and you’re settling into married life, though, it can be tough to distinguish what things you’ve heard about marriage are true and what are just myths, so to say. Read on to learn about all the widely believed tenets of marriage that, over the years, have turned out to be more fiction than fact.
You Have to Change Your Last Name
It’s now considered quite old fashioned that all married women need to change their last name to match that of their new husband. While this is somewhat of a widely held tradition, it’s becoming more and more common for women to keep their given last name. The fact around this “myth” is that either way is fine. If you want to change your last name, go for it. If you want to keep your last name as it, that’s cool too. Some couples are getting creative with this and are coming up with new last names that are a combination of both surnames, which is an innovative way to break tradition. The important thing is that you discuss it with your husband and let him know how you feel about the act of changing your name either way.
Couples Therapy Is Only for Troubled Marriages
Many couples believe that going to couples or marriage counselling is something only to be done if there is an issue between the two of you. This is simply not true, though. The stigma surrounding therapy that it’s only useful to face issues is a false one, and going to couples therapy on a regular basis is a helpful way to keep your marriage healthy and the lines of communication open. While it may not be a necessary measure in your marriage specifically, that doesn’t mean it couldn’t lead to great things and further happiness for the two of you.
You Have to Combine Your Finances
Another common myth is that married couples have to merge their finances after they say “I do.” This is not necessarily true. While many couples do opt to do this, many do not. There are also different ways to go about this that are less straightforward than getting joint bank accounts. Many couples get joint checking or savings accounts while keeping their own accounts as well. Some couples decide to get joint credit card accounts while others prefer to keep their credit cards separate. Money is a personal thing, and with that being said, there’s no hard and fast rule on how to handle your finances whether you’re married or not.
Your Sex Life Will Be Less Satisfying
It’s a commonly held myth that the sex life of married couples is less exciting and satisfying than when you’re in a newer relationship. This is definitely not true. Your sex life can be just as exciting as it was pre-marriage as long as you work to keep the spark alive! Make it a point to surprise your spouse, make time to be intimate and focus on each other, and keep the romance alive with fun date nights.
The Next Step Is Buying a House
Another commonly believed myth about marriage is that right after you exchange vows, the next step is buying a home together. This is another old fashioned sentiment that is nowhere near true in today’s world! So many couples buy homes together before they’re married, or even engaged for that matter. On the other hand, many couples wait years after they tie the knot to buy a house and prefer to rent. Some couples even rent forever! Each individual couple has to do what works for them rather than subscribing to a formulated “plan” that they believe to be what they’re “supposed to do” after getting married. Buy a home when you feel emotionally and financially ready rather than doing it because you think it’s what’s expected of you.
Getting married is full of surprises, and some of these may be in the form of debunked myths you believed before you exchanged vows.