Planning your wedding ceremony is an exciting process, as it’s where you will walk in as a single person—and walk out married! With so many different avenues to explore, traditions to incorporate, and items to consider in the planning process, it’s normal to get a bit overwhelmed by this. There are a lot of useful tips and tricks, though, to make the process more seamless.
1. Get to Know Your Officiant
You’ll want to get to know your wedding officiant so that you can best work with them in planning your ceremony. They’re playing a major role in your life and in your big day, so this is crucial. Meet with them to go over the ceremony and also get to know them more informally, if possible, by having dinner or coffee together. They’ve likely seen hundreds of marriage ceremonies, so ask them what works best in their experience and use their advice in planning your own.
2. Choose the Right Venue
When you’re planning your marriage ceremony, you likely have a location in mind that is special to you. Whether it’s a religious venue or somewhere else, you should definitely also consider how close it is to your reception venue (if the two are separate). You won’t want your guests to have to travel too far between the two, so consider this when creating your plan.
3. Incorporate Your Past, Present, and Future Together
Your wedding ceremony is all about incorporating not only the present, but your past together as a couple, as well as your future moving forward. Incorporate all three of these elements into your ceremony however you can. This could be through a unity ritual, like a candle or sand ceremony, or however else makes the most sense to you as a couple.
4. Think About Momentum
Keeping people’s short attention spans in mind, make sure you have a good flow when it comes to the schedule. Avoid any super long readings or moments that will bring your ceremony to a halt, as it will make your ceremony seem disjointed and could lead to your guests getting antsy. Since the vow and ring exchange is the highlight of the ceremony, plan to do this towards the middle of the ceremony, if possible.
5. Incorporate Important People from Your Lives
It’s always nice to recognize the important people in your life. Incorporating them into your marriage ceremony is a meaningful gesture that will be well-received. There are multiple ways to do this, whether it be by making someone important to you your officiant or asking loved ones to give a reading. You can also use wedding traditions, such as ring warming or the presentation of roses, to present a nod to those close to you, too.
6. Be Strategic with Decor
Ceremony decor is important, but if you’re not careful, it can cost quite a bit. Instead of focusing all your resources on the flowers and decor for the ceremony entrance area, focus more of it on the altar, as this is the main focal point of the event. If your ceremony and reception are in the same area, plan ceremony decor that can be repurposed in your reception to help save you some money and be less wasteful.
7. Plan for the Right Duration
While it’s totally fine to have a long wedding ceremony, keep in mind that the average attention span of your guests will be between 20 and 25 minutes. Anything shorter than that, and people may feel like the ceremony was rushed. Anything longer, and they may grow bored and antsy. Especially if your ceremony is not in a religious venue, try to stay in that sweet spot of 20 to 25 minutes as far as length is concerned.
8. Have Comfortable Seating
Keep your guests comfortable throughout the ceremony with appropriate seating. Make sure they will be sitting in shade if the ceremony is outside. If your budget allows, consider providing paper fans or water bottles for extra comfort. Also have programs that provide a general outline of the ceremony, as guests will surely appreciate being in the know as they watch you exchange vows.
9. Don’t Include “Filler”
Avoid adding extra “filler” items into your ceremony just for the sake of it. Only include things that are important and meaningful to you to keep your ceremony concise, special, and unique to you as a couple.
Planning the perfect wedding ceremony doesn’t have to be tricky. It can be as easy as following these tips and tricks!