What to Do as Soon as You’re Engaged

A young couple that just got engaged.

You just got engaged—congratulations! After you pop the champagne and let the idea soak in that you and your beloved are actually tying the knot, you might be wondering, “Now what?” No doubt, you have a million ideas and thoughts swirling in your mind. Who do you call first? Do you have to start planning the details right away? If you’re feeling overwhelmed with all the things and all the feels, here’s a helpful guide on what you need to do as soon as you get engaged.

1. Take a Moment with Your New Fiancé!

A young couple dancing on an urban rooftop.

Before you reach out to your inner circle, take a moment to breathe and enjoy this beautiful moment with your fiancé. This is a huge milestone in your relationship. (Not to mention, no matter how much your partner loves you, it takes a lot of courage to get down on one knee and pop the question.) So, allow yourselves to appreciate your journey and savor this time together.

2. Call Your Parents (and your Nearest and Dearest)

We know—you have a ton of people that you want to share your good news with. However, to decrease your anxiety, focus on the two people who will be the most excited to hear about your engagement: your parents, or those who are the closest to you like BFFs and/or your siblings. While we know you’re probably planning on sharing your engagement on social media (more about that later) you don’t want your loved ones to hear about your momentous occasion online. So, go ahead and surprise them with a FaceTime call. It’s worth it!

3. Share Your News on Social Media

A female hand with a diamond engagement ring.

Now that the VIPs have been informed about your exciting news, you can post on social media with your ring selfie and #ISaidYes hashtag (or whichever one floats your boat). Some brides-to-be opt to splurge on a cute manicure before posting the pic while others might be spontaneous and shoot a candid shot right then and there. Then, of course, there are other couples who might have hired a photographer to secretly capture the moment. No matter which photo opp you choose, do what feels right to both you and your fiancé. And remember: it doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be you!

4. Get Your Engagement Ring Insured and Sized

If your fiancé was erring on the side of caution and hasn’t gotten the ring insured already, then now is the perfect time to purchase that insurance. Also, if your partner wasn’t able to find the perfect ring size for your finger (hey, it happens a lot), then take it back to your jeweler as soon as you can so they can size it to fit your ring finger like a glove. While you’ll probably have to be without it for a few weeks, it’ll be worth it to have a ring that’s fit just for you.

5. Throw an Engagement Party

A group of friends holding champagne at an engagement party.

Throwing an engagement party is only the beginning of the many celebrations that are to come within the next year or so. In other words: get used to toasting your love. An engagement party is the perfect way to celebrate your exciting news with your closest friends and family before you throw yourself into the stress and hustle of wedding planning. Enjoy this time. Things are about to get super busy very quickly!

6. Come up with a Wedding Timeline

Before you get ahead of yourself with the ins and outs of wedding planning, take a moment to establish a reasonable wedding timeline that works for both you and your partner and your families. Some people have a short engagement, while others take their time and wait more than a year to get married. There is no fast and hard rule as to when you need to get married after you get engaged. Talk it out with your fiancé to make sure you’re on the same page, and come up with a plan that’s both feasible and affordable, and one that you both like.

While it’s easy to dream of your wedding day, don’t forget to soak up this special time of being engaged. Yes, there are things to tackle, but by getting the above done first, you will enjoy your new engagement while also being able to stay on top of all the wedding planning that is to come.

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