What Your Wedding Vendors are NOT Telling You (But Really Want To)

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It does take a village to create a beautiful wedding, and behind you on your wedding day is often a team of wedding planners, hair and makeup artists, photographers, catering staff, musicians…and the list goes on. You will be planning alongside these people for months, and there are things that they won’t be able to tell you—but really want to. Here’s a rundown of some of those things. Hopefully this will help you in planning your big day and creating personal relationships with your wedding dream team.

Please don’t call on weekends.

Events are usually on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays. So, if you try to get a hold of your wedding vendor on a weekend, they are most likely working an event and you probably won’t be able to reach them. Even emails sent during the weekend will need to wait a day or two for a response. Keep this in mind so you don’t feel neglected as a client. After all, you wouldn’t want them to be answering to other clients on YOUR wedding day. Oh, and another thing: Mondays are recovery days for some vendors, too.

Your vendors’ products or services are their livelihood.

A florist carrying a plant up stairs at a wedding venue.

Wedding professionals charge their rates for a reason. Prices are based on skill level, experience, assistants, cost of business, etc. Don’t try to ask for discounts, barter, or talk them down. Rates are high for a reason, and like any other job in any other industry, this is how vendors put food on the table.

They want you to save money, but “friendors” are risky.

Vendors will work with whoever you hired for your wedding, even if it’s your friend who has a high-end DSLR, or your aunt who’s great at flower arrangements. But remember that since a wedding is an event that has so many layers and so many movements, you need professionals who know the typical wedding day flow, can troubleshoot quickly, and can meet the schedule you set. The last thing you need is added stress on your special day because something wasn’t finished on time or a segment of the program was not captured. While friends or family who offer services for free can help your budget, remember that your wedding is one of the most important milestones of your life, which holds memories you will always cherish. Let it be handled by the experts.

It is YOUR day.

A wedding planner helping a bride-to-be shop for a wedding dress.

Big milestones such as weddings can drive people to give unsolicited advice and comparisons. Such can add to your stress—but your wedding vendors will always ask you: What do YOU want? It is your day to be in the spotlight, not anyone else’s. No matter what side comments they hear on your wedding day, your wedding vendors will focus on what will make YOU happy. So focus on what matters and let go of the rest.

Treat us with respect.

Vendors are people, too. As much as they love what they do, working for six to 12 hours or more hours in a fast-paced environment takes a toll, so even the smallest gestures of appreciation can go a long way. Small things such as being treated nicely by the couple and their families, or being served food alongside the guests, is respectful and encourages them to give more than the 100% they are already giving.

Ultimately, those who work in an industry as intimate and personal such as weddings are passionate about what they do. It’s not all about booking for the big bucks. The wedding team you have researched, vetted, and reviewed have your best interest at heart, and will do everything for you to have your dream wedding. Trust them. Create friendships so they get to know your likes, dislikes, and priorities. Share with them your vision for your big day, and let their expertise create something special and unique just for you.

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