Once you get engaged, it’s only natural that you want to shout your excitement from the rooftops—or at least from Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. But how much sharing is too much during your wedding planning? Are there things you shouldn’t share at all on social media? Here’s six mistakes you may want to avoid when it comes to your engagement and social media.
1. Sharing Your Engagement on Social Media Before You Tell Close Friends and Family
One of the first social media faux pas you can make while wedding planning is to share a picture of your engagement ring before you make a call to your mom, your best friend, or send out a group text to all your closest pals. The last thing you want is for random classmates from college or someone you worked with two jobs ago to know about your upcoming wedding before the most important people in your life. Once you’ve shared the exciting info with all of the most important people, feel free to post that Boomerang of your sparkly new ring.
2. Posting About Every Wedding Appointment
When you’re planning a wedding, you will be heading to a lot of appointments to pick a venue, a caterer, a florist, a wedding cake baker, and maybe even a wedding planner. It might be tempting to share a quick post on Facebook or start a live feed when you are heading to yet another wedding planning appointment, but it’s best to spare your friends and family every little detail. Being excited is great—and expected—but oversharing on social media may make your friends and family a little disinterested when you have conversations about wedding planning with them in real life.
3. Spending too Much Time on Social Media
It’s easy to get distracted by social media—and in fact, we’re all guilty of this—but it’s especially easy to get distracted when we’re in the midst of planning a big event. When you’re in the middle of wedding planning, it’s not uncommon to spend hours scrolling through Instagram or Pinterest for wedding ideas and advice, but it’s a good idea to unplug every once in a while. Enjoy being engaged and be present for this moment in your life. Spend off-line time with your spouse-to-be and look forward to the future with them—sans social media.
4. Making Your Pinterest Boards Public
What did we ever do before Pinterest came into our lives? Once you’ve set the date (or let’s be real—before you even got engaged), you’ll want to start curating a Pinterest board that’s dedicated to all things wedding planning. But before you start pinning and coming up with some brilliant DIY ideas, don’t forget to set your Pinterest wedding board to secret. Not only will this prevent other brides from copying your vision, but it will also keep your guests out of the loop on what you’re planning. Trust us: you’ll want your guests to be surprised and wowed once they show up.
5. Posting Complaints about Wedding Planning on Social Media
Although planning a wedding and being engaged is a wonderful time in your life, it’s not without its stresses. You’re dealing with a lot: coordinating vendors, scheduling engagement photos, trying to achieve a good work/life/wedding planning balance, and learning to cope with new family members. It’s understandable that you’ll need to complain every now and then (okay, maybe you need to complain every day to your MOH). Whatever you do, don’t post your complaints on social media. Whether it’s your new mother-in-law, a vendor who is unresponsive, or a member of your wedding party that is driving you crazy, resist the temptation to vent about it online. Making your complaints public will only cause you further problems and invite unnecessary drama to deal with, and you’re busy enough as it is.
6. Forgetting to Tell Your Friends What to Share and What not to Share
As you’re planning your wedding, you’ll be relying on a whole team of support to get you through every single decision and to share in the exciting moments, like picking out the dress. This team of support will be just as excited as you are about your upcoming nuptials, and they may even want to share this excitement in a social media post—but before they even get a chance to share, it’s important that you’re direct about what you want posted and what you don’t.
For example, you may be cool with friends and family members sharing pictures of you while you’re shopping for your wedding gown, but you may also want to keep that heavily under wraps. And that’s totally okay. You may also want to be very careful on what you share from your bachelorette party—because your boss doesn’t necessarily need to see you drinking out of a cup shaped like that.
Whatever you want shared and whatever you don’t, just be honest with your friends and family so that there are no social media surprises down the road.