It’s completely normal as a first-time bride to have a lot of fears and concerns going into your wedding day. A wedding is an event with a lot of logistics and moving parts, so it’s natural to worry if things don’t go exactly as planned. Although of course you can’t foresee every issue or concern that might come up for your wedding, you can certainly combat some of those pre-wedding jitters by coming up with some plans and solutions to common concerns.
1. Your Makeup or Hair Won’t Be on Point
Maybe you’re worried that you’re going to get your photos back and realize you had a major makeup meltdown or your hair was a mess, and you didn’t notice. But I can assure you, this simply will not happen. No one is going to let you leave the room and walk down that aisle looking like a hot mess. Your friends are going to fawn around you and tell you you’re the most beautiful bride in the world (as they should), but if your highlight is poppin’ a little too much, your hair is falling, or there’s something in your teeth, you can bet your bottom dollar they won’t be letting you leave that room until it’s fixed. Trust your people to help make sure you look like a million bucks on the big day.
2. Your Wedding Party Will Fight
Maybe you have a wedding party that doesn’t know each other very well, or that is full of big, bold personalities and you’re afraid they’re going to disagree or get into arguments on your big day. This is definitely a stress that many brides experience, especially if they’ve heard murmurs about disagreements involving pre-wedding events like the bridal shower or the bachelorette party. A good way to assuage your fears on this issue is to talk with one of the members of your party—like your maid of honor or a bridesmaid who has a knack for keeping things calm and civil—to keep everyone in check on the big day. This person can either talk to the group and remind them that they’re all there to support and celebrate you, or they can just keep an eye on everything and make sure everyone’s getting along. Also remember that these are your friends and family, and at the end of the day they are all there to stand by your side and make you feel amazing. Even if they do have disagreements, they are likely going to be able to put any animosity aside and make the day as wonderful as possible for you. And if they can’t, just make sure you have a maid of honor, best man, or bridesmaid who knows how to keep things under wraps and away from you and your partner. You don’t need to deal with drama on your wedding day!
3. A Vendor Won’t Show Up
Total nightmare scenario: it’s the morning of the wedding and you’re supposed to be getting your hair and makeup done with your bridesmaids, but you get a phone call that the caterer or florist hasn’t arrived. What do you do!? To avoid this, make sure that before the big day arrives you’ve nominated someone else to be the day-of point of contact. This can be a wedding or day-of coordinator if you have one, or a friend or family member who’s willing to take the lead on communication for the day. The last thing you need to be doing on this seriously important day is making phone calls about what was the right quantity of mac and cheese you needed or how many bouquets should’ve been there by 9 am. But to help combat your fears even more, make sure you’re in contact with your vendors well before the day of the wedding! Call or email everyone a few weeks in advance for confirmation with clear information including the date and time of your celebration, and any other relevant details that will be important for them to know ahead of time. While you’re at it, give them the contact information for your day-of coordinator, or whoever you’ve previously designated to make sure everything is in place. Getting this done weeks before your big day will let you clear your mind and know that it’s all taken care of. If there’s an issue, you know you have someone who will handle it for you!
4. You’ll Forget Your Vows
You have these gorgeous, thoughtful vows planned. It took you and your partner days to come up with exactly what you’d like to say—but what if you get up to the altar and they all fly out of your brain and you truly, genuinely can’t remember them? Have no fear; nerves are normal, particularly about such a key part of the ceremony, and lots of folks have trouble remembering their vows when all eyes are on them! A simple but effective solution is to print a copy for your officiant or even your maid of honor to keep on hand for the big moment, just in case. If you don’t need to reference it, wonderful! But if you do, you’ll know you have a copy right there for you.
5. Something Else Will Go Wrong
There are so many other potential fears and trepidations for a first-time bride that they could keep you up for weeks! What if the music doesn’t play or the cake gets dropped on the ground? The reality is these things are so unlikely to happen! The best thing you can do is go into your big day as prepared as possible for any fears you might have. But just remember: even if things don’t go exactly as planned, after all’s said and done you are going to leave your ceremony at the end of the day with a brand new spouse and partner for life; truly, that’s what matters most!