Planning a wedding is definitely an exciting time in your life—as is planning for a baby! But what happens when those two events collide? Does it make things just as exciting or double the stress? The reality is a bit of both. Generally speaking, being pregnant during your wedding doesn’t have to change your original plans much at all. However, there are a few things to consider doing differently.
Consider What Trimester You’ll Be in at Your Wedding
If you just found out you’re pregnant—congratulations! The first question on your mind may be whether to alter your save-the-dates. Depending on your due date, you may want to delay (or speed up) the process. While there’s nothing taboo about tying the knot with a baby in tow, you should take into account your well-being.
For example, during the first trimester, you may be experiencing morning sickness. And in the third trimester, you might feel tired and be unable to stay on your feet as long as you’d like. Things should be pretty stable in the second trimester, so if your wedding falls during that period you won’t have to worry much at all.
However, if your wedding happens to fall too close to your due date and you don’t want to risk going into labor in the middle of the ceremony, you should strongly consider changing your schedule. Or if you’re brave, at least find out where the closest hospital will be to your venue and prepare an exit strategy!
Consider the Style of Dress for Your Changing Body
If your heart is already set on the perfect dress, you may feel disappointed that you won’t be wear it; but this doesn’t necessarily have to be the case! You should speak to your bridal retailer or a tailor to know if any adjustments can be made.
But if you haven’t yet made up your mind on a wedding dress, you might be wondering how to shop for one when you know you’ll be growing. One of the easiest options is opting for an empire waist style, which leaves plenty of room for a growing belly. You don’t have to limit yourself, however, as long as you shop for a style that’s functional and easily alterable. Ask your bridal shop for recommendations after you know how far along you’ll be at your wedding date.
In addition, look for a lighter, flowy material that’s easy to wear. Heavy beading, for example, might be too much and make you sweat or feel dizzy. Keep in mind that you’ll also likely need to use the restroom often, so the dress shouldn’t be hard to deal with in the bathroom. Lastly, try to delay all alternations until the last possible minute to assure a perfect fit. However, know that last-minute tailoring, especially for a complicated dress, can be costly.
Don’t Forget About the Shoes!
Shoes are another issue you’ll have to deal with when shopping for your wedding outfit. It’s not uncommon for your feet to swell and widen during pregnancy. Hence, it’s a good idea to delay shopping for a pair until as close to your wedding date as possible and buy at least a half-size up. It’s easier to adjust shoes to a smaller size than the other way around. (The good news is if your shoes are made from leather, you may be able to stretch them a half or even a whole size in one direction. Consult with a local cobbler to see if it can be done.) Feel free to wear heels if you’re comfortable, but do keep a pair of flats on hand at all times. And try to wear your shoes at home as much as possible before the big day to better mold them to your feet.
Be a Glowing Beauty
It’s important to be cautious with your complexion while pregnant. After all, you’ll definitely want to take advantage of that pregnancy glow. Hormones can make your skin act up, so make sure you’re religious about your skincare routine in the meantime. Should you have bad luck with acne, hire a makeup artist for your big day. Most professionals should be able to mask common issues. And, of course, don’t forget that there’s photoshop as well!
Remember that You Can’t Dye Your Hair
One of the best parts of being pregnant is having lush hair. However, if you’re used to chemical treatments, you may be disappointed to know that most of these aren’t allowed during pregnancy. There are some hair dyes that are deemed okay, but it’s best to ask a professional about this. You’ll likely have to hire a stylist as you’ll have to forgo most hair dye, perms, and Brazilian blowouts while you’re pregnant.
Adjust Your Drink Menu
Since you’ll no longer be enjoying the alcoholic drinks you were planning, make sure to provide a more extensive non-alcoholic menu alongside the original one. Sparkling cider is a great substitute for those champagne toasts, and there are plenty of delicious mocktail recipes to experiment with. More and more people today are drinking less or not at all, so you won’t be alone in your sobriety. Most stores also carry non-alcoholic wines and beers. However, these often have a small percentage of alcohol (usually less than 0.5%) so keep that in mind when shopping. Still missing that toast? Although drinking while pregnant is never recommended, if you absolutely must, there is no harm done by taking a sip or two of some sparkling wine.
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help
You’ll have a lot on your plate with two major life events coming up, so don’t hesitate to enlist extra help. This is one time where hiring a wedding planner will provide major relief. In addition, don’t be shy when asking your bridal party to assist with more to-dos than you expected. Your loved ones will be sympathetic and glad to lend a hand.