Wedding planning is a busy time, but it’s also a time for you to be reflective on your future: where you’ll live, what your holiday traditions will look like and, of course, if and when you’ll start a family. But if you’re starting a family a little sooner than what you thought—like, say, right in the middle of wedding planning—there’s no need to panic or postpone the ceremony.
Expecting a little one soon? Here’s what to do if you become pregnant while planning your wedding.
First, Calm Down
It’s easy to get overwhelmed with wedding planning as it is, but add in a pregnancy on top of it and that can be a recipe for a stressful situation—but it doesn’t have to be. Before you make any arrangements or start to take your pregnancy into consideration with your wedding plans, take a minute to breathe and celebrate your new little bundle of joy that’s coming into the world.
Whether you planned your pregnancy or it was a happy surprise, it doesn’t mean that your wedding plans have to drastically change. You’ll just have an extra little something to look forward to after the ceremony is over.
Plan Who You’ll Tell About the Pregnancy (or Decide to Keep it a Secret)
Depending on how soon your wedding is and how far along you are, it’s possible that you can keep the baby news under wraps until you’re further into the pregnancy (especially if you plan on wearing a loose fitting or flowy wedding gown). You can also choose to share the news only with your immediate family and a few close friends—and stress the importance of keeping it quiet until after the ceremony.
If, however, you’ll likely be showing by the wedding date and you feel comfortable sharing your news, then by all means ask your friends and family to celebrate all of your exciting life changes. And if you’re really bold, you could also wait until the wedding reception to announce the pregnancy in a fun and unique way, adding in a sonogram picture to the family photo table or having one of your parents make a speech and tell your guests how excited they are to be a grandma or grandpa.
Keep a Very Organized Calendar
When you’re planning a wedding, it’s wise to keep a calendar going for appointments with vendors as well as deadlines for sending out invitations, finalizing the menu, and reminders for when the checks are due. Add in a pregnancy on top of your wedding plans and you’ve got twice as many dates to remember for doctor’s appointments, Lamaze classes, and shopping trips for baby’s room.
All of these important dates need to be tracked in the same place to avoid over-scheduling and burnout. Keep a very organized calendar—and combine it with your partner’s—so that the two of you have an exact idea of what’s going on at any given moment.
Plan Your Wedding Dress Selection for a Growing Belly
You may have found the dress several months ago when your size was a bit more predictable, but now your body is changing—and fast. If your wedding date is approaching soon and your belly hasn’t grown too much, you might just need slight alterations in order to be comfortable on your wedding day.
However, if your wedding day is months away and you can’t imagine squeezing into that mermaid gown you picked out 15 pounds ago, you might want to consider an alternative dress or having a serious conversation with a tailor. Still haven’t shopped for a wedding dress? Look for a gown that’s got a looser fit and softer fabric that moves. Your best bets are an A-line or empire waist style that leaves a little more room for your growing baby belly.
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help with Wedding Planning
Planning a wedding is already exhausting—but pregnancy will make you tired like you’ve never been tired before. Because you have all of these things piling up on your plate (and all you want to do is nap) don’t be afraid to reach out to your partner, your bridesmaids and your family members to ask for help with wedding tasks. Have a bridesmaid who’s got great penmanship? Recruit her to help you address invitations. Have a mother-in-law with connections to a caterer? Ask her to set up a meeting for you and ask for advice about the menu. Wherever you can, try to delegate tasks to those who would be happy to help so that you can take a beat, relax, and concentrate on growing your healthy baby.
Reconsider Your Menu Options for the Wedding Reception
While you may have had your eye on a cheese plate filled with Camembert and Brie or maybe a sushi bar during your wedding cocktail hour, things have changed since you became pregnant. As you plan the menu for the wedding reception, don’t forget to think about your new dietary restrictions. Of course you want to make your guests happy, but it’s important that you’ll be able to have a good meal on the night of your wedding, too!