Eloping has become trendier than ever. If you’re one who doesn’t want to make a big deal out of your wedding day or feels anxiety over wedding planning, then you’re likely considering elopement. However, it’s totally normal to worry whether or not you might regret eloping. In fact, it’s a common question among brides-to-be since eloping means we won’t be celebrating with our loved ones, among other things that you won’t have if you say “I do” in private. It’s important to be aware of all the options and pitfalls, so if you’re wondering what might be the best choice for you, we present five reasons you may regret eloping.
1. You secretly dream of having a big wedding
While having a smaller wedding like an elopement might be more “practical” or “easier,” if you’re someone who’s always dreamed of having a big wedding filled with your friends and family then eloping might not cut it. Even if you can rationalize why eloping might be best for you and your fiancé at this time, you might always have that nagging feeling that you didn’t do your big day in the way you really wanted to. You definitely deserve to have the wedding experience you want! Try to investigate what it might look like to have a small wedding on a small budget with your nearest and dearest.
2. Your family and friends will be disappointed
Your big day is all about you and your beloved, but let’s be honest: your closest friends and family will want to be a part of your wedding. Even if they support your decision, no doubt they’ll be disappointed that they weren’t involved with your beautiful celebration. At the end of the day, your wedding is about you and your partner and what you want from it. However, if you’re someone who might wrestle with disappointing your family for years to come, you might want to reconsider eloping.
3. You’ll be disappointed that your friends and family aren’t present
This might be the bigger sticking point than the above. Initially, you might be okay with saying “I do” solo with your partner, but it’s important to keep in mind that you might end up regretting that all your other loved ones weren’t there. Sit with your feelings and consider how you truly will feel if your closest circle isn’t present on your wedding day.
4. Your expectations might not live up to reality
Whether you’re marrying abroad on a beach or getting hitched at city hall, there’s the chance that if you’re getting eloped, you might be cutting some corners when it comes to certain things. For example, you probably won’t hire a wedding planner or a professional florist. You might even skip out on hiring a professional photographer because you want to keep things simple or economical. You might even be a little “willy nilly” when it comes to details because you don’t think it’s worth the attention if it’s just you and your partner.
While it’s totally understandable to want to be thrifty, especially if your budget is tight, there are some things that you’ll want to put your money towards like a pro photographer—since photos are the ultimate keepsake for your big day. And if you can’t afford a planner, it’s a good idea to still be intentional about your celebration. Make clear decisions and treat your big day as special as it really is.
5. You didn’t wear the big white wedding dress
You definitely can wear any type of dress if you elope, but most brides typically don’t splurge on wearing a big white wedding dress if they’re eloping. While a big white wedding dress isn’t a requirement to have a beautiful and wonderful wedding, you might want to consider if that’s something you truly want or not. When it comes to your dream day, what is your dream dress? Again, don’t be afraid to be honest with your deepest desires. And if you do wear the dress of your dreams, consider the fact that no one will see you wearing it in-person (besides your fiancé, of course!) if you’re eloping. How will that really make you feel?
Ultimately, this is one of the biggest and most joyful days of your life. You should only elope if that’s what you truly want. So if you want to have a wedding that’s bigger and includes your loved ones, then you should definitely have the wedding of your dreams. You deserve it!