Creating a wedding registry isn’t as easy as you may think. While you’re essentially creating a giant shopping list that you don’t have to pay for, which in theory sounds amazing, it’s pretty easy to go overboard. You can easily end up with a lot of stuff that you don’t really need or will even use. (And those are things that your loved ones would have had to foot the bill for.) Bring on the feelings of regret and guilt! In order to avoid those not-so-great feelings, we came up with a list of the five wedding gifts you’ll regret registering for. So let go of that scan gun, take a breath, and read on.
1. Fine China Set
Unless you’re the Queen of England, there’s probably very little reason for you to ask for a fine China set. Why? Because chances are you’ll keep it in a dining cabinet for VIP guests and seldom use it. Life and meals are meant to get a little messy, and who wants to constantly worry about scratching or breaking a plate whenever they eat? Stick with dinnerware that’s a little heartier, everyday, and fitting for every guest who sits at your table.
2. Double Kitchenware
Do you already have a salad bowl but think you ought to get a second “just in case”? Do you already have a set of knives but think, why not have an extra one? Be honest with yourself: how often would you use that extra bowl? While it’s easy to get lost in “what if?” scenarios, like the one wherein which you run out of salad bowls, the likelihood of you needing a double of the same item is pretty slim.
3. Fancy Glassware
On the same note, you might also want to skip out on the fancy glass chalices or crystal wine glasses that, again, will probably be saved only for “special” occasions. The odds are you’ll be so nervous to use them out of fear of damage that you’ll actually never use them and they’ll end up collecting dust for years. Do yourself a favor and get a fairly inexpensive set of wine glasses that you can regularly use—and probably break—without going into a cold sweat over.
4. Decor Items
It’s easy to get carried away with ideas of Pinterest-worthy decor items like vases, picture frames, and votive candles. But realistically, you probably don’t need more than one or two vases. Think about it: would you rather have a home filled with practical items like laundry baskets or a vacuum (AKA, things you actually need and will use) or one that’s filled with dozens of vases and candles? Your future self is hoping you go for the former.
5. Single-Use Appliances
Unless you’re someone who typically makes her own pasta, you probably don’t really need to own a pasta maker. The same goes for an ice cream maker or a quesadilla maker. While it might be a fun idea to think you and your partner will regularly make pasta or ice cream together, it’s important to get real with what you’re most likely to do—and not do—on a regular basis. Before registering for a single-use appliance, consider if you want it because of the novelty of the item or because of its necessity.
While it’s really easy to get swept up with fancy items and dreamy “wish list” items for your wedding registry, it’s important to remember that you and partner are building a life and creating a home together. In reality, you’ll need less posh stuff and more practical things in the future. So in order to avoid registry guilt, focus on what you really need, and not want you really, really want.