Same-Sex Wedding Style: Coordinating Two Grooms

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When it comes to LGBTQ weddings, the options are endless when it comes to the attire. This is great news for those who are comfortable with mixing patterns and coordinating outfits seamlessly. However, for those of us who need a little help, the endless options may actually feel more overwhelming. So what are the best ways to coordinate two grooms without being too “matchy matchy”? Here are some ideas to look and feel confident on your very special day.

Think About the Tone and Theme

Before you get started picking out your attire for the wedding, begin by thinking about what kind of mood you want to set. Do you want the wedding to be more formal and traditional or do you want a very casual and relaxed vibe? What’s the location and time of year? Venues and temperatures can make a big impact on how you decide what to wear on your big day. For example, linen suits in soft colors may not work well for an outdoor fall wedding, so you want to be sure that you’re sticking with the overall theme and mood while at the same time not being afraid to break rules when they need to be broken.

Traditional Tuxes, but with a Twist

Weddings can be as traditional and untraditional as you want, but if you find yourself gravitating towards the more standard black and white tuxes (cummerbund and all), then a good way to make each groom’s tux individual is to mix it up in the accessories. One groom may choose to wear a bow tie, while the other groom may choose a long skinny tie for a more retro look. Play with the wedding colors and choose fun pocket squares and colorful socks to make the look a little less stuffy and more personalized.

One Dark, One Light Tux or Suit

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Another way to coordinate groom’s outfits is to have one groom wear a dark suit and the other wear a light suit. You can aim for a classic black and white look, or you can mix it up using the colors or themes of your wedding. You could also coordinate by having Groom A’s jacket and pants match Groom B’s shirt and vice versa. Don’t be afraid to play with color. Traditional rules are meant to be played with after all, even in the case of wedding fashion.

Mixing Patterns

For a bolder look, go for mixed patterns instead of just solids. You could have Groom A in a blue plaid and Groom B in a dramatic floral to create a truly daring and unforgettable ensemble. You could also go more vintage with a houndstooth jacket or a seersucker suit, which would be perfect for a spring wedding. Again, don’t shy away from putting in a little personality into the outfits. They are going to be center stage and in pictures that will hang on your mantle so you want to make sure that you’re getting the exact look that you want.

Short and Long

If you are getting married in the spring or summer or if you are venturing off for a big destination wedding on an island paradise, you might consider bringing shorts into the conversation. Decide on a color scheme and get a similar looking suit but have one with Bermuda shorts and the other with longer linen pants, which creates a casual and beachy look. You could also consider having one groom wear a jacket and then have the other groom wear a vest or even suspenders to create a contrasting look.

Wear Matching Outfits

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If you can agree on a date and a color scheme, then there’s no reason that you can’t agree on the same tux. When coordinating becomes too much or if you just simply like the look of matching tuxes or suits, then go for it! The most important thing in every aspect of your wedding is to celebrate the love you have for each other. If you have attendants, put them in a contrasting tux or suit so that the two of you can stand out—it is your day after all.

Decide Together

Throughout wedding planning it’s crucial to make sure that you’re on the same page as your future spouse. Check in with each other to make sure that your plans are not stepping on each other’s toes and that they are getting to plan as much of it as they want as well. If your future husband wants to wear something that you’re not crazy about, don’t just immediately dismiss their idea. It’s important to plan the details out together so that one person never feels as though they don’t have a voice in the event. Keep each other in mind with every decision that you make about the wedding and it’s sure to be a wonderful event.

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