Planning a wedding can already be overwhelming, but with a baby on the way things can get a little more complicated (and also more exciting!). Two of the most eventful moments of your life are happening at once and there are a lot of things to plan out. Here are a few tips on how to plan a wedding while you’re pregnant—and stay calm in the process.
Keep Your Due Date in Mind for Everything You Book
You may have always dreamed of a June wedding, but if your baby is due in June then you’ll have to do some restrategizing. It’s probably best to avoid the third trimester when you’re planning a wedding because it’ll be harder to move around, and you definitely want to avoid rushing to the hospital just in case he or she decides to show up a bit early.
If you don’t want your bump to show in your wedding photographs then the first trimester would obviously be best, but keep in mind that you may have some gnarly morning sickness or extreme exhaustion. Your second trimester is when many mothers start to show, but your early pregnancy symptoms may die down a little bit (plus your skin and nails are likely going to look amazing). Essentially, the idea is that you just want to nail down a date that’s going to work best for you and your changing body.
Book Venues and Vendors with Flexible Cancellation Policies
Although your pregnancy is sure to go smoothly, in the unlikely event that you may need to be put on bed rest or have special treatment in the hospital, you want to ensure that your venue and vendors are flexible and sensitive to your situation. Be sure to ask exactly what the venue’s cancellation policy is and whether or not you can get any deposits or payment back. Also ensure that you look over the contract for your vendors to see what their cancellation policy is just in case you need to use it (particularly if you book your wedding date close to your due date).
Find a Dress that Works for You
Your body is going to be changing rapidly during your pregnancy so it’s important you find a dress that will be able to keep up with your baby belly. Because your body will likely be a different shape from the time you buy the dress to your wedding day, it’s a good idea to get a dress that flows and that isn’t too tight. Stick with dresses that have an empire waist that won’t hug too tightly to your belly and make you feel uncomfortable. It’s also important to make sure you’re picking a light, breathable fabric that can allow you to move around easily. Lastly, you want to ensure that you are making a trip to the tailor before your wedding day so that you can check for any last-minute adjustments you’ll need to make on your dress.
Pick Food and Drinks that You Can Eat
Being pregnant is a joy, but it certainly can be a pain avoiding all of the foods that you love like sushi, unpasteurized cheeses, deli meats, and of course not being able to drink alcohol. There’s nothing wrong with accommodating your guests, but don’t forget about you! Choose foods that you are allowed to enjoy as well as beverages. It’s perfectly fine to provide alcohol for your reception but be sure to also provide sparkling water, soft drinks, or lemonade that you can also enjoy.
It’s also very important to ensure that you sit down and eat on your wedding day. Many brides and grooms have a tendency to forget to eat while they’re chatting with guests, dancing, and enjoying the ceremony, but it’s crucial that you set aside some time to eat your meal and snack throughout the day.
Don’t Do Too Much
It’s only natural that you’ll be excited and inject a lot of energy into planning your wedding, but don’t get too carried away or take on so much that you are overwhelmed. Do what you can, but if you feel like you need to take a rest, take it. If it’s just going to take too much energy to make place cards for every single person at your wedding, then it won’t matter if they’re not there.
It’s likely that you have a team surrounding you (such as your partner, a parent, friends, etc.) that would be more than happy to help you with small wedding tasks. Reach out to your friends and family members to let them know if there’s anything they can do to take a bit of stress away.
Incorporate Your Baby into the Ceremony or Reception
Not only are the two of you becoming a unit, but you’re also adding another member to your gang. What better way to celebrate the arrival of your baby than to incorporate him or her into your ceremony or reception? Light a candle during your unity ceremony to symbolize the birth of your child, or have your wedding cake baker make the filling of your cake blue or pink for a reception gender reveal. There are several things you can do to commemorate your growing family as well as the love that his or her parents have for each other.