Personal Wedding Vows
I LOVE this song from Something Rotten, and it kind of describes the process of writing our vows.
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Writing your own vows can be quite the daunting task, but we loved sharing this moment. Even now I read these words and pretty much instantly tear up. Neither of us is a great writer, but with a little inspiration from the ‘Bee, we both were able to find the right words.
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Judging by how many sniffles we heard and the number of tissues in hand, our guests enjoyed hearing them as well. Because both of us needed a little help finding the right direction, we wanted to share our words with all of you. Buckle up…we had a lot to say after 10 years together.
I went first:
My dear sweet Mr. Dreamcatcher. Today I have loved you for 3,678 days. There has been an enormous amount of both joy and pain in that time, but I wouldn’t trade a single second for anything in the world. And I know for a fact I could not have a better partner to tackle this crazy life with. You have been one of the only steadfast things in my life, and words cannot even begin to cover how grateful I am for your love and endless support. You are somehow able to always believe in me, even when I don’t believe in myself. I may be a little biased, but I think we are the perfect fit for each other, puzzle pieces that only match with one another. I am the luckiest girl in the world because in you I have found the most dreamy eyes, kindest hugs, sweetest smile, loving heart, and wise soul. You are one of those people that just embodies the word “good.” Not only are you amazing inside and out, you inspire me to be the absolute best I can be, in everything that I do. Mr. Dreamcatcher, I cannot wait to build a life with you together that is more grand than anything we can accomplish alone. Love isn’t just a feeling, it is a verb. I am promising, and choosing, to love you with all I have to give, every single second for the rest of my life, the next 3,678 days and beyond.
I promise to always encourage and support you, make your dreams my dreams, and never stop working so you accomplish everything you desire.
I promise to trust and respect you as we build our lives together, and turn all of the “I”s and “you”s into “we”s and “us”es.
I promise to keep Christ as the head of our household, and honor his name by always being a faithful servant to him and wife to you.
I promise to create a home with you that embodies happiness, joy, laughter, and love, that feels safe and warm as long as we are together.
I promise to not fill our days too full, to make sure we have time to just be present with each other and enjoy the quiet moments.
I promise to tackle every challenge with you, and handle each trial with love, kindness, and understanding…maybe not at first, but when I calm down. I will always be on your side, and your biggest fan, and your best teammate.
I promise to always listen to and hear you, whether it’s about your bad day, the situation you want to vent about, or your differing point of view.
I promise that you will be my one and only, that you will be all I need, and that I will be faithful always.
I promise that I will be here always and that these vows are not just words on a paper, but a covenant that is truly forever, through every hill and valley, up and down, high and low, and any other season our lives will bring.
Mr. Dreamcatcher, I promise you will never, ever be alone. I wholeheartedly give you every part of me, and promise that marriage will be our greatest, most beautiful adventure to date. Most importantly, I promise that I will never, ever stop loving you. Every part of you, on the best and worst of days. I am forever yours, and you are forever mine.
Photo by the amazing Laurel Mountain Photography
I was about three sentences in before I started crying, but I managed to make it through without completely losing it! Mr. Dreamcatcher then spoke his wonderful words:
Miss Dreamcatcher, it’s amazing to think about how far we have come as a couple. It’s hard to believe that so much time has passed when it seems just like yesterday. When we were younger I felt that you were the one from early on and had envisioned being with you for the rest of my life, but always felt it was so far away in the future. Now that day has come and it is so surreal to me that the next chapter of our lives is about to begin. So many things have helped shape our lives and lead us to this point in our journey. Whether it was friends, family, or milestones throughout our lives, our love and trust in each other as well as God’s will has ultimately helped guide us through both troubled times and great times to lead us to where we are today. Over the years you have played a large role in my growth as a person. You have been there to help me through tough times. You have helped consult me about difficult decisions, both personal and business, despite how much I bombarded you with business talk when I probably shouldn’t have. When things felt like there was no way to recover, you were there to help me find a way. I look forward to continuing to grow as not just a person, but together as a family. I am ready to take my next step with you on our journey through life and love. In doing so, I promise to be there for you when you need me the most.
I promise to make you laugh when you feel like you need to cry.
I promise to make you smile when you feel down.
I promise to provide hope for you when you have none.
I promise to keep honest, open communication with you about any issues.
I promise to continue to remind you of how beautiful you are despite not feeling so at times.
I promise to remind you of how great a person you are, and how you make my life whole.
I promise to love you for the rest of my life.
I look forward to seeing how far we can go in our lives and to see what challenges we can conquer. If we can come this far, I don’t see how we can’t make it till we are old and gray. So far I’m not too far off from the gray part, so we can’t be doing too badly. All jokes aside, I truly believe that as we grow together, we will be able to overcome obstacles, grow our relationship, and live our lives to the fullest.
I can gladly say that I am ready for a lifetime of memories with you and only hope that God allows me to be on this Earth long enough to share as many years as I can with you. As long as we let our love carry us, I don’t think there is anything that will stand in our way of succeeding in the life we both envision. Let’s make that a reality with today’s first step on that journey. I love you, Miss Dreamcatcher.
Photo by the amazing Laurel Mountain Photography
Annnnnd of course the tears didn’t stop falling. I loved the little bits of humor thrown in, but mostly we were making promises for the rest of our lives. If you’re on the fence about writing your own vows, we would highly recommend it. It was the most memorable part of our ceremony (aside from me totally screwing up the rings -_-).
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Dreamcatcher tip #15: I found it most helpful to start writing my vows from the very beginning of our engagement. Not the full thing, just jot down little snippets that pop in your head during ordinary or special moments. Also, if you’re keeping your vows secret until day of (which we also recommend!), have someone read both sets to make sure they fit well together. I would have been pretty embarrassed if Mr. D went on for five minutes and mine were three sentences.
- My dress almost doesn’t happen.
- I get by with a little help from my friends.
- We stumble through a rehearsal.
- We give some awesome gifts.
- Flow it, show it, hair, hair, hair, hair.
- Stuff gets sprayed on my face and makes me pretty.
- It takes one mom and six bridesmaids to dress me.
- A Gentleman’s Guide to Getting Dressed
- A look of the first variety.
- I forget I planned a gift exchange.
- Our wedding party cheeses something fierce.
- Our photographer somehow makes us look good.
- I manage to not trip.
- We have a beautiful ceremony, even if I don’t know a left from a right hand.