Your BFF has asked you to be the maid of honor in her wedding—so commence the champagne popping and the squealing! But other than sending her Bridesmaids GIFS all day, what does it really take to be by the side of your friend as she plans her big day? Here are eight ways to be the best maid of honor you can for your bestie.
1. Be Available for Bridal Appointments as Necessary
Being a bride is a busy time. There’s dress shopping, venue visits, and meeting with all of the wedding vendors like the caterer, DJ, baker, florist, and videographer. While it’s unnecessary that you be available for all of these appointments (it’s likely that the couple will want to make and attend these appointments by themselves), you should definitely be ready and available for dress shopping and dress fittings.
Of course, if you live far away from the bride you likely won’t be able to make it to most (or any) bridal appointments, but if you can’t be there in-person, ask her to FaceTime or at least chat on the phone with you about her thoughts and opinions after the experience. The key is just doing the best you can to be there for her.
2. Throw One Hell of a Bachelorette Party
One of the main responsibilities of the maid of honor is to throw your bride the ultimate bachelorette party. But before you stock up on genitalia-inspired decorations and look into the most salacious evening possible, ask your friend if a traditional bachelorette party—debauchery and all—is what she wants. She may be more in favor of a chill evening at home with wine, facials, and pedicures or attending a wellness weekend in the woods. No matter what the bachelorette party entails, your job is to ramp up the excitement for the rest of the attendees and plan all of the evening or weekend’s festivities accordingly.
3. Help Throw a Bridal Shower
While you may not personally be throwing the bride a shower (this may be handled by her mom, aunts, or a friend of the family), you job as MOH is to be ready to assist in any way possible. Coordinate with the shower planner and see if there’s anything you can do to help—whether that’s sending out invitations, helping to decorate, or supplying the champagne. You can also help the bride out with her gift registry if she asks, giving her suggestions on what to get and tagging along on the shopping spree, if she wants.
4. Be Her Sounding Board
One of the most important roles of the maid of honor is just to be ready for a texting session or a late-night phone call when she inevitably gets frustrated with wedding planning, her future mother-in-law, or issues with vendors. Just being there to say “Girl, I feel you,” or “What a jerk” is all the reassurance that she may need to propel forward.
5. Assist with DIYing
If your bride BFF is the DIY type, another task you want to be ready for is crafting sessions. Whether you’re helping her make DIY wedding favors or assisting her with wrapping tulle around dozens of votive holders, be at the ready with scissors and a glue gun just in case. If you’re not really crafty, you can also always offer to bring the wine and provide moral support while she’s getting it done.
6. Have a Meal Ready for the Day Of
It’s a ritual for all of the bridesmaids and the bride to get ready together before she walks down the aisle, which could be an all-morning or all-day event. Food is likely the last thing on the bride’s mind, so be sure to be prepared with a simple breakfast or lunch—and supplies for mimosas if you so wish.
7. Be the Communications Director for the Bridesmaids
Coordinating a group of bridesmaids is never an easy task, but it can be especially complicated when the bridesmaids are spread out around the country and have busy schedules. Your position as maid of honor is to help communicate with all of the bridesmaids and let them know about bridesmaid shopping dates, dress fittings, and let them know about the bachelorette party date as soon as you have it organized. Think of yourself as the communications director for the bridal party.
8. Be Prepared with a Drink at the Ready
Wedding planning is stressful. You’re planning an event for lots of people, which includes coordinating multiple vendors, juggling a budget, and keeping a mother happy with all of the decisions being made (a tall order). No matter how involved your bride wants you to be involved in the planning of her wedding, the most important thing to do is be ready with a good stiff drink when she needs it (or a strong cup of coffee!).